We are going to begin the process of learning how to read others as well as ourselves. All
emotion is expressed through the theater of facial expressions.So it would be the first place to look if you are attempting
to discover if someone is being honest with you. Keep in mind that people try very hard to control their emotions. However
it is almost impossible to completely cover everything - especially the facial expressions. Below is one of the best articles
I have read describing this phenomena.
Learning how to accurately
interpret facial expressions isn't easy, but it can make you a more effective leader. (Or in
this case more effective reader of facial language.)
knows that tuning into body language and facial expressions can indicate the thoughts and feelings that remain unspoken. He
also knows how difficult those nonverbal cues can be to interpret. During a budget meeting with a direct report while working
for Global Knowledge, Goldfarb noticed that his vice president kept toying with her necklace. He thought this mannerism was
an indication of her discomfort with the financial target he was proposing. He also noticed her eyes and thought they expressed
worry over the budget target. He repeatedly asked her during the meeting if she thought she could meet the budget, and even
though she consistently answered yes, Goldfarb didn't believe her. So he scheduled a follow-up meeting with her to dig deeper.
She ended up meeting the target without a problem, and Goldfarb realized that he wasted his and her precious time by scheduling
the follow-up meeting and by dragging out the first one with repetitive questions. What could Goldfarb have done differently
to more accurately size up his vice president?